Interesting Quote (Ken Nair)

A friend shared an article on a message board I participate in. I found it fascinating.

In Nair's book ['Discovering the Mind of a Woman' by Ken Nair] he tells the story of a wife who was suffering severe fainting spells. To keep her from getting hurt, someone had to be with her constantly to catch her. She couldn't drive her own car, go grocery shopping, and prepare dinner, or almost anything
by herself. When she and her husband came into Nair's office for counseling the wife was a nervous wreck.

It soon became obvious she could do nothing to satisfy her husband's controlling personality and his demands for
perfection. He questioned the wisdom of her purchases at the grocery store. He criticized her choices for meals and
even how she set the table. He constantly reacted negatively to her decisions.

She felt she couldn't do anything right. Nair concluded that she was so uptight about being a failure in his eyes, that rather than face his emotional rejection from another wrong decision, her body would compensate by fainting.

He profiles another case of a medical doctor's wife who was suffering unexplained hair loss. They had two children, and he was so busy with his medical practice, that he seldom was around to help with the children. She was expecting their third
child, which was an unplanned pregnancy.

She was struggling emotionally with her attitudes toward the third pregnancy and anger toward her husband, because he always seemed to be too busy for her or the children, which
made her feel isolated, unimportant, and lonely. It seems that her emotional struggles were causing her to lose her hair.

He profiles another woman he labels the "dying inside wife," who was taking medication for depression. Her husband maintained a consistent pattern of indifference toward her, which felt like personal rejection and led to a wounding of her spirit.

She too began to experience physical symptoms from her emotional wounding. Both the husband and her friends began to be concerned about her emotional stability, and wonder how the husband could be so patient and tolerant living with such a troubled person.

While the husband was seen as stable, she was seen as unstable. This rejection by her friends only increased her guilt and sense of despair.

Now I've just cited a couple of somewhat extreme examples, and I know that many women are suffering silently with symptoms that are not as obvious. What is the answer for these three women? Is it Zoloft, Paxil, or extensive Christian counseling?

In one or more of the cases cited in Nair's book, the husband has the disease, but the wife is taking the medication. "The wounded spirit is the cause of the physical symptoms, and you can not medicate the spirit of a person," Nair writes. The drugs will not work if one is dealing with spiritual woundedness.